A debate continues to unfold between Christian evangelicals and other Christian adherents over what the phrase “children of God” represents. For some, a focused reading of scripture confers the honor only upon those who are ‘saved’, though in truth there is as much to debate over the merits and meaning of ‘saving’ language as there is with other broad stroke theologies.

Concerns reside in each direction. By limiting ‘children of God’ to only those meeting specific criteria and cherry-picking scripture in support of that position, an exclusive class is established where all are declared welcome but in reality some are viewed with suspicion. Under this model, those who clearly establish their religious bona fides go to the front of the line, not exactly a Jesus maneuver by any measure.

For others, the exemplar theory of atonement (unlike substitutionary atonement, the most popular Easter theory of how Jesus ended up on the cross) directs theological energy to Jesus as moral exemplar. Under that premise, it becomes problematic to suggest that exclusion would be a marker of religious faith. Each argument, however, hinges on how we read and digest scripture, and the poles could not be further apart.

It would be helpful to first distinguish whether people are literalists, applying a perceived inerrant immutable word of God to everyday life. Alternately, others embrace a more philosophic approach that acknowledges the propensity of human authors to tinker with the Jesus narrative and Biblical record, among others. It’s important because how one approaches scripture establishes the roadmap for ensuing discussions.

Once the parameters and meanings of the road signs are identified, greater awareness emerges of the driving terrain, and more productive conversation can follow without pressuring the ‘other’ to conform to any script but their own. That is when Christians are at their most productive ecumenically speaking. Can we agree to disagree? Unfortunately, too many Christians imagine their religious viewpoint sacrosanct. Why entertain any discussions that challenge our faith directly? It is far easier to righteously dig in without giving in. Fear can become a driving force.

Jesus was a master of re-directing discussion and prompting those present to delve deeper into their compassions. Today he might be called a life coach or religious counselor, although both come with significant baggage. Too many pastors consider themselves competent counselors based on the cloak of authority granted to them by the church, ergo from God. It is a hard lesson for many, but all things prefaced with ‘Christian’ are not automatically okay.

Whether you embrace a bodily resurrection of Christ or deem it metaphorical, the deep sadness and overwhelming joy of Holy Week makes indelible impressions on us all. For traditionalists, hold on to what brings you comfort and assurance. For others who are ready for a different challenge, step out in faith and see where it takes you. It might require going off-script when you least expect it, but the vibrancy that results is remarkable and inspiring.

The season of Easter is a time of compelling story and deep contemplation. Jesus comes to each person in their own unique moments and circumstances. When it comes to faith, belief, and the Easter message, one size does not fit all. And that takes some getting used.